Ep. 109: You’re Done Settling

This is for the Christian woman who is no longer available for an “almost” life and is ready to leave the wrong path behind.

In this episode, I’m talking about what changes when a woman is truly done settling—not just for the wrong man, but for any path that is not leading to the life she desires.

Go to thechristiandatingcoach.com
and move toward marrying well.

Transcript

The clients I work with come to me because they are done settling, not just for the wrong man, for the wrong path. After six years of positioning Christian women to marry well, I can tell you this. Women who are done place time at a premium. They stop calling repetition wisdom. They stop [00:01:00] mistaking motion for actual movement, and they stop treating love like the one area of life that should somehow resolve itself without real guidance.

Not living. The life you actually want is still settling. Most women will stay in the tension and learn to live with it. You're not most women. You do not settle for a version of life that is almost, and you no longer wish to say you're waiting on the Lord if what that really means is waiting for this part of life to somehow resolve itself.

So here's how life looks for you now. Decisive, aligned, [00:02:00] tenacious, decisive. Because when something matters, you move. You do not need six months to decide whether you are serious, and you do not need another year to admit that the right path matters aligned because. This is already your pattern of success.

You get counsel, you take calculated rescue, pursue a real solution until it exists. That is how you have built everything else that works in your life. Love is no longer going to be the exception, tenacious because you are not the type of woman available for an almost life. This is an area. You are going to partner with the Lord in not vaguely hope for, and when something is not working, you do not keep repeating it and calling that wisdom.

You pivot, you adapt, [00:03:00] you stop doing busy work. That never becomes a result. Women come to me when they're ready. To leave confusion behind when marrying well is the only outcome they are available for. Because settling in your life now would look like staying ineffective. It would look like hesitation. It would look like becoming quietly wistful about a life you were meant to build, but no longer really believe you will.

That is not how we describe you anymore. You see the cost and you're done paying it. Done. Being busy done, being responsible, done, just focusing on work. Done, just keeping your life together. Done tweaking your profile. Again, done swapping out selfies, done overthinking texts. Done deleting the apps only to [00:04:00] redownload them later.

Most importantly, done praying the same prayers, talking to the same people, and seeing no real movement despite all your motion. Because a woman can waste years looking active while going nowhere, and the woman who is done does not give the same path another year. This is what opens up. When you stop settling, you actually meet someone who finishes your sentences.

Someone who keeps you up late at night because neither of you wants to stop talking to each other. Someone who understands parts of you, no one else ever did, someone who adores you to your core, who makes you feel more beautiful than you have your whole life. [00:05:00] And slowly, even though you already had success and accomplishment, the life opening in front of you begins to hold a kind of fulfillment and joy and purpose that only God could have written.

That is what you are no longer willing to miss. And that is why this matters, because settling does not only happen with the wrong man, it also happens with the wrong path, and you are no longer willing to settle for either. This is where I come in. I work privately with Christian women who are done circling and ready to marry well.

My clients are women who place time at a premium. They want precision guidance [00:06:00] and accelerated path. That is the work. If you are done circling, go to the Christian dating coach.com. And move towards marrying well.